R. E. N. E. G. A. T. U. S.

You're never too old to ride one

2009-06-06T07:58:00.000-07:00

Like most people say, age is just a number. Here are some of the inspiring men and women whom I've encountered on my trip to Genting, Malaysia. And their motto; Live life to the fullest!

SSSSSSSWEEEEEEEET! =)

TO INFINITY AND BEYOND!

THIS GUYS IS IN LOVE WITH YOU PARE... BADING na BADING SAYO... =)

Love is Blind or Lovers are Blind?

2009-06-06T07:56:00.000-07:00

This is what welcomed us when we got to Kuala Lumpur, Malaysia on our last trip. Taken outside the arrival gate, just beside the street.

" People say that you're no good for me
People say it constantly
I hear it said so much I repeat it in my sleep

Maybe I am just a fool for you
Maybe youre no angel too
But all that talk is cheap
When Im alone with you

If love is blind
Ill find my way with you
Cause I cant see myself
Not in love with you
If love is blind
Ill find my way with you "

My Movie Reviews

2009-05-21T09:18:00.001-07:00

ANGELS AND DEMONS

I haven’t read the book yet unlike to that of the first movie, The Da Vinci Code. My friend Suzzy, who had already read the book said that, the movie didn’t had much of what was going on in the book. She was a bit disappointed. Like many, I usually read the book first before watching the movie version of it. But sometimes, when my laziness gets the better of me, I just go watch the movie first and then read the book. This way, I can already picture out my characters, the plot, and etc. Obviously, this one is the latter. I watched it yesterday with a friend and it was great. The movie had an interesting storyline, action, suspense, mystery and Ewan McGregor in it. It made me wish I had watched the live telecast when Pope Benedict XVI was announced successor of the late Pope. This is a must-see movie and I rate it 4/5 stars.

STAR TREK

“Space, the final frontier. These are the voyagers of the Starship Enterprise. Its mission; to explore strange new worlds… to seek out new life and new civilizations… to boldly go where no man has gone before… ”

I can proudly say that I am a fan; series and movies. I remember back in the days, my dad and me used to watch the series together. My mom would usually say, “If you keep watching that (referring to the alien race Klingons) your face will become like that someday.” Of course, it didn’t have an effect on me. I heard the movie is nice so I watched it this afternoon. It was awesome. The special effects as expected were superb. Plus they had Leonard Nimoy, the original Spok, in the movie. Classic! Although, I was actually expecting to see more alien races onboard the vessel. Nevertheless, I think it lived up to the expectation of the previous Star Trek movies and series. This movie is worth your every penny to watch. I rate this 4.5/5 stars.

A song for mama - my short version

2009-05-10T07:02:00.000-07:00

For all the moms on Mother's Day, most specially to my wondermazing mom. You're the best. I love you sooo much and thank you.

GALIT NA TINDERA

2009-04-13T09:31:00.000-07:00

Galing ako sa Filipino mini-mart malapit sa Holy Trinity Church. Doon ako usually namimili ng can goods katulad ng Century tuna, 555 Sardines, etc. One fine Sunday afternoon, dating gawi, pumunta ako dun para mamili at nagulat ako sa nakita ko... Nagulat at natawa sa galit na galit na note ni ate sa wall sa likoran nya. Gusto ko lang e share at eto yun:

FYI. Auntie/Uncle ang tawag sa mga matatanda dito sa Singapore.

SO THERE I WAS....

2009-04-12T08:09:00.000-07:00

Today, I went straight to Orchard after work to meet up a friend. Drew, got a cool deal from buying Havaianas sandals/slippers, which apparently come with two free movie tickets. We didn’t really plan on what to watch. It was only when we got to Cineleisure that we decided to check out, Confessions of a Shopaholic based on a novel by Sophie Kinsella.

Isla Fisher starred as Rebecca Bloomwood, a bubbly New Yorker who is also a fun-loving girl addicted to shopping that landed her on a credit card debt crisis. She dreams of working for her favorite fashion magazine, Allette, but on a twist of fate ended up with a career as an advice columnist for financial magazine, at the same publishing company, which she thinks still may be her ticket to Alette. She then fell in love with his good looking and British accent boss, Hugh Dancy as Luke Brandon, who thinks the debt collector, Robert Stanton as Derek Smeath, is her stalking ex-boyfriend. The movie was overall funny, colorful (literally), romantic, glamorous, interesting and a really feel-good movie to watch.

I’ve learned quite a lot from the movie; that anything green should never be paired with anything yellow, or else…That there is a big difference between cost and worth… That it’s never good to lie, unless you can really pull it off… That Joan Cusack really looks old now, especially in the movie. And lastly, that having 4 different credit cards is really a great convenience... I would’ve wanted to watch the movie over and over again, but then I realized that I was not in the Philippines. Watching the movie again and again would be very expensive here in Singapore, because then it would mean that I will have to pay again. I rate this movie 8.5, 10 being the highest.

25 Random Things about Me

2009-02-11T08:52:00.001-08:00

1.) I had enough office drama today. Phew! Good thing I’m off tomorrow and on leave this Friday.

2.) Apart from Love, I believe that Trust plays a very major role in every relationship.

3.) I don’t believe in long distance relationship. It’s all crap! It will never work out. Eventually, one will give in to the physical longing. It’s inevitable.

4.) I like to read when I like to, but most of the time I’m lazy. I’d rather listen to audio-books.

5.) I love to sing and that’s the reason I joined a choir. I may not have a good voice but singing is my passion. Naks! constructive criticism only please. hehehe

6.) Believe or not, I have stage fright. I’m trying to slowly overcome it.

7.) I always put lotion on my feet before I sleep. Forget the other body parts but not the feet.

8.) I’m sexually active. My car can attest to that. Hehehe

9.) I would like to have kids someday but I don’t see myself getting married. How?! hhmmm... I think I better start saving up for either artificial insemination or adaption.

10.) I’m always up for a challenge. I took up an Engineering course even though I hate Math - I graduated BS Comp E. I joined the CAT training in high school even though many said I wasn’t fit for it - I became an officer.

11.) I would like to think that I’m a mature and an independent person now more than ever.

12.) I miss my family in Cebu, specially my mom.

13.) I am a frustrated cook. I like to experiment with food whenever I have the time to do so. My dad is the best cook in our family.

14.) I love my two sisters.

15.) I don’t go to work on my birthday, no matter what happens. *wink*

16.) To work in Singapore was the hardest decision I’ve ever made. Leaving my mom and my sisters behind was never easy. However, it was the most fulfilling act I’ve ever done. In my 2 years stay here, away from home, I’ve learned so many things in life.

17.) I will never desert my family for anything or for anyone. For me, family comes first.

18.) I like watching movies and TV series (animes included). Some of my favourites are Naruto, Bleach, X-men, Desperate Housewives, Grey’s Anatomy, Ben10 and whole a lot more. I wish I had Storm’s mutant power.

19.) Most of the time I prefer to watch horror movies alone. It’s scarier that way. It’s only now that I have my friends/housemates who share the same interest so we watch it together.

20.) I want to go to Hong Kong, Disneyland this year.

21.) I think my room is infested with dust mites. Shyet! I’m doing a general cleaning this Friday.

22.) I dyed my hair black just recently.

23.) One of the most precious and most expensive things I bought here in Singapore is my laptop. I wouldn’t have survived without it.

24.) I just had chicken, spam, danggit, egg and bread for dinner.

25.) I love my friends/housemates. Cheers! It has been an awesome 2 years for us. Hoping for more great things in this year of the Ox.

WRONG NUMBER

2009-01-26T08:19:00.000-08:00

My phone rang and woke me up in the middle of the night – 12:45am. The phone was just right beside me, so it was louder than the usual. Thinking it was my 6:15am alarm, I franticly reached for my phone, half-asleep and eyes still shut, only to find out that it wasn’t. I realized that I forgot to put my phone on silent mode (the alarm and ring tone of my phone are the same). The number kept flashing on my phone, it was a local number, and obviously it was someone whose number was not in my contact list. I was hesitant to answer it at first. But maybe, just maybe, I was thinking it could be someone I know. It might be an emergency. A bit pissed off for having been awoken earlier from my slumber, I answered with a husky voice.

Me: Hello?

Man: Hello? Si Billy ba toh? Billy! (the man said in a cheerful-excited voice)

Me: I’m sorry, wrong number.

Man: Billy! Andito ka pa ba sa Singapore? (still in a cheerful-excited voice)

Me: I’m sorry. I think you got the wrong number.

Man: Huh!? Then who's this lor? (now his voice sounded a bit fierce)

At the back of my mind I was thinking, I’m not obliged to answer his question. Why should I tell him my name? He was the one who called me. I paused for a few seconds and then sharply answered.

Me: I’m Ramon. Sorry, I think you really got the wrong number

Man: Ramon right?

And before I could say yes, the man had already hang-up the phone. What a jerk! The annoying thing is that, he never even said “sorry.” It never hurts to say sorry, especially when it’s your fault or when you know you’re bothering someone else for this matter. I think the man is educated enough to have reached Singapore. I presume that he would also have a bit of knowledge about phone etiquettes. If not, then it’s definitely time for him to learn about it. Moreover to the lack of phone etiquette, what concerned me most was that the person is a fellow countryman.

Popcorn CRAZE!

2009-01-20T07:39:00.000-08:00

It was last year, 2oo8, when I first tasted this overly delicious popcorn from Manila, Philippines - Chef Tony's. I'm not sure if they have branches in Cebu, but I know for a fact that you can get it in most SM stores in Manila.

It comes with various flavors that you'll love and crave for; Parmesan, White Chocolate, Mochachino, Cinnamon Butter, Classic Light Butter, Caramel and Pesto. It's affordable and low in fat, a true Popcorn lover world surely go gaga about this.

I first fell in love with the Parmesan perfection as the cheese melted smoothly in my mouth. And have feasted over the flavorful mixture of coffee and chocolate with roasted almonds in Mochachino. I have yet to taste the other flavors and I can wait.

Yummy!!!! munch,,,, munch.... munch...

***** To all popcorn lovers

FUNNY MOMENTS @ WORK

2009-01-18T07:32:00.001-08:00

Part of my job is liaising with other airlines regarding flight bookings. Not boring a job, it’s somehow a bit challenging; from the clients, to my colleagues and to the overly exaggerated daily quota. Although, most of the time frustrating, irritating, confusing but sometimes, really amusing. Don’t get me wrong. I like my job and I enjoy what I do. So let me share these funny experiences I had at work, which usually happens almost everyday.

SCENE 1

Ring… ring… ring…

Colleague: Hi! Good afternoon. Yes, I wanted to check what happened to the flight under this booking reference. It’s 23TXFG1.

Airline’s Agent: Ah Ohkhey sir, whone moment please. Let me repheat tat booking reference number it’s, number 2… 3… T for tiger… X for excellence… F for father… G for golf and number 1

**** like you can really say X for extra. Duh! Hehehe

SCENE 2

Ring… ring… ring…

Me: Good Morning. Hi! I’m Ramon and I want to check on this reference number. Its number 4… A for Alpha… B for Bravo… C for Charlie… K for Kilo… number 3 and E for Echo.

Airline’s Agent: I see… Ohkhey let me repheat tat one sir… Its number 4… A for Alpha… B for Baby… C for Charlie… K for cake… number 3 and E for England.

**** yeah, I suppose the K for cake comes with K for candles on top. Hahaha

SCENE 3

Ring… ring… ring…

Me: Good Afternoon. This is Ramon and I want to check on this booking blah… blah… blah…

Airline’s Agent: Sir, can I have the passengers’ name please.

Me: Yes, the passengers’ name is Ms Renegado, Lourdeliza. Can you check what happened to her flight? Why was it cancelled?

Airline’s Agent: Thank you. Ohkhey let me check tat whone. Can I put you on hold fhor ah mhomhent?

Me: Ok, no problem. Thanks.

(after almost 10 minutes on-hold)

Airline’s Agent: Thank you for waiting Ms Renegado, Lourdeliza. I check and…

(I interrupted)

Me: Oh, I’m not Ms Renegado, Lourdeliza. I’m not the passenger. Like I said I’m Ramon from blah… blah… blah…

Airline’s Agent: Oh I see. So how can I help you sir?

Me: Huh?!@#*%$*$^

**** I can’t help but giggled and explained again to her.

I can’t really say I have the ideal job. But hey! It pays may house rent, stack food in my refrigerator and provides fund for my guilty pleasures, so I’m cool with it.

***** To the stressed agents at my work place.

Phonetic Alphabet 101

2009-01-10T05:12:00.000-08:00

According to Wikipedia, phonetics is the study of the physical sounds of human speech. It is concerned with the physical properties of speech sounds (phones), and the processes of their physiological production, auditory reception, and neurophysiological perception. Phonetic Alphabet is used when spelling out a word over the phone for better understanding.

It’s not the first time that I have encountered weird Phonetic Alphabet over the phone. Some would use name of countries like; N for New Zealand, B for Berlin, Z for Zimbabwe, etc. I’ve heard even countries or places which I myself don’t even know it exist. Imagine others would spell it out like they’re trying to tell you their family tree; F for father, M for mother, B for brother, etc. Good luck on that. While majority have a tolerable way of spelling out words in their own self-invented Phonetic Alphabet, the rest just can’t seem to make it. Just like when I called a certain Airline the other day to check on a flight booking. I was partly amused on how the agent spelled out the booking reference number to me. Here’s how part of the conversation goes.

Agent: Good afternoon. You’re speaking with Ra!@#%, how can I help you?

Me: Hi! Good afternoon. I’m Ramon and who am I speaking with again?

(it was quite a difficult name to catch)

Agent: My name is Radchatatili (not the agent’s real name), how can I help you Madam?

I didn’t know that my name could pass as a woman’s name and old woman by that. I guess she heard “Ramona”, which happens most of the time. I didn’t bother to correct her because I was rather focused on spelling out her name on my notepad.

Me: Radchatatili, I wanted to check on this booking but I don’t have your booking reference number with me. I have the flight details though. Will you be able to help me?

Agent: Ahhh.. Ok. Can I have the flight number Madam?

Me: It’s on blah blah blah (cannot say the airline) and departing from Singapore to Bangkok

Agent: Ok I see. I have it in front of me now Madam. All flights are confirmed and ticketed.

Me: That’s great. Can I have your booking reference number for this one please? Thanks.

Agent: Ok. It’s Mama, Item, number 2, How, Fuck, Love (not the exact 1^st and 3^rd alphanumeric of the booking reference)

Me: I’m sorry. What was that again please? M for Mama…

Agent: Yes madam. M for Mama, I for Item, number 2, How, Fuck, Love

I couldn’t help myself, so I put the phone on mute for seconds and giggled out. I can’t believe that she spelled the last 3 letters the way she did. So I had her spelled it out for me twice just to make sure I heard the right words she used. And towards the end of our conversation I thought of repeating it again to make sure it was spelled out correctly.

Me: Ok. So it’s MI2HFL right?

Agent: Yes, that’s right madam.

Me: Thank you so much Radchatatili for your help. That would be all and have a nice day.

Agent: Your welcome and you too Madam have a nice day. Thank you for calling blah blah blah.

I hang up the phone and laughed my heart out. Imagine the F word being used while spelling out a certain word. OMG! If my grandfather had heard her, for sure she would have gotten a lecture of a life time. Or could it be that she said Fox or maybe Fork? But from what I’ve heard, I was sure that she said the F word. It may have sounded funny to me but who knows it may also sound offensive to others.

So I think it’s time to brush up on our Phonetic Alphabet just to make sure that we don’t sound funny or annoying over the phone. Below are tables of accepted and commonly used Phonetic Alphabet and make sure you familiarize them.

NATO Phonetic Alphabet

Letter	phonetic letter
A	Alpha
B	Bravo
C	Charlie
D	Delta
E	Echo
F	Foxtrot
G	Golf
H	Hotel
I	India
J	Juliet
K	Kilo
L	Lima
M	Mike
N	November
O	Oscar
P	Papa
Q	Quebec
R	Romeo
S	Sierra
T	Tango
U	Uniform
V	Victor
W	Whiskey
X	X-ray
Y	Yankee
Z	Zulu

Western Union Phonetic Alphabet

Letter	phonetic letter
A	Adams
B	Boston
C	Chicago
D	Denver
E	Easy
F	Frank
G	George
H	Henry
I	Ida
J	John
K	King
L	Lincoln
M	Mary
N	New York
O	Ocean
P	Peter
Q	Queen
R	Roger
S	Sugar
T	Thomas
U	Union
V	Victor
W	William
X	X-ray
Y	Young
Z	Zero

An Open Advice About Career Decisions

2007-01-13T22:45:00.000-08:00

A good piece to reflect on...

AN OPEN ADVICE ABOUT CAREER DECISIONS:

Several of my staff has approached me lately about their career decisions. I really appreciate my staff opening up to me. It is quite reassuring to know that they're still having second thoughts about leaving. Here is part of the email I sent to a "confused" staff:

I have worked for more than 5 companies already so I guess you might be correct in saying I have had considerable experience about leaving and moving on. I will not stop you nor tell you to leave, though of course it will be better if you stay. In any career decision, leaving or staying I believe, based from my personal experiences and as an HR professional, should only be done for the right reasons.

For one, you shouldn't leave because you don't like several people in the company, nor should you stay because of the friends you have made here. At the end of the day, it is your life. Your friends or "enemies" should not make or break your career. If you let them be the deciding factor, then maybe you should think twice. You are the craftsman of your fate and the captain of your ship. Captain Hook shouldn't be one of your worries!

Do not leave nor stay because of the "brand" of your company. If that was the case, I would have rushed off and sign my JO in "C"! Ask yourself whether you want to be a big fish in a small pond or a small fish in a bigger pond. Know your priorities. Only you can answer that.

Do not leave the company because you're so damn frustrated about the way things are being run, or stay because you have this "messianic complex" that you can change things overnight. Be realistic about the things. Learn to accept that there is no perfect company. Be accepting that change is a slow and painful process at times and be thankful that you realize and act on things that can be changed and improved. Definitely, do not leave or stay just because your parents want you to. I know I am advocating obedience to parents but again, we are talking about YOUR career. But learn to value their wisdom and discern well.

Money isn't everything. The package being offered now might be better but look at the long-term prospects. Do not leave or stay just solely on the compensation package. Look for growth prospects and review their career plans for you. Your immediate gains today might actually be a loss a few years from now if you do the Math.

Boredom is another challenge all professionals are faced with during lull periods in their career. Do not leave because you have become so bored with your job. Do not stay either because you want things as they are. Change is inevitable in any organization. Talk to your boss. Ask for more responsibilities or other tasks if you're bored. Enroll in a special course. If you're satisfied with the status quo and is just waiting for retirement hoping things will stay the same, you're in for a big disappointment - either you will be forced to change or you will be forced to leave. Be ready before that time comes. Boredom or complacency is perennial battle most professionals have to deal with. Arm yourself with creativity everyday!

Tonight I suggest you rest well. Sit still and listen to what He is saying. PRAY. I have always made my career decisions through His guidance. He was and still is my Career Adviser/Talent Manager. Your work, our work, is a vocation. He knows us more than we know ourselves so trust Him for whatever plans He has for you. You can never go wrong.

And remember: Use your head to get to the top. But use your heart to stay.

The Journey: Asta la vista Maricar and Mon!

2007-01-13T22:39:00.000-08:00

New Year, January 1, 2007, two separate resignation letters were sent out. One was from a Supervisor, who was at first uncertain if joining the three others was the right thing to do. But on this day, Maricar submitted her resignation letter with a firm decision. There was no stopping her from going to Singapore, even if she was offered an increase. She wanted some changes in her life and she knew this was what she needed.

On the same day, a Customer Service Representative who was just as eager as the other three sent out his resignation letter. Feeling excited of what lies ahead, I clicked on the "send" button of the email that was in front of me. It wasn't an easy decision for most of us, but I have a feeling that we will pull this off. However, at the back of my mind I was a bit worried. Sad and worried for the love ones I'm leaving behind. But this was not to be a sad story, rather a beginning of a much exciting story in life - a story that will be worth sharing.

Mahal, Aimee, Maricar and Mon. These are the four brave and hopeful souls who will go to Singapore for an adventure of a lifetime. Char! Hehehe *wink*

Asta la vista!

**** To a better future.

The Journey: Adieu Aimvas

2007-01-13T22:36:00.000-08:00

No one thought that she would have the courage to leave her boyfriend in the Philippines. No one expected that she would resign. Yes, this was the sad and unexpected news that Aimee had to tell her colleagues during their Christmas dinner. I could just imagine the look on their faces. I don’t exactly know how she pulled it off, but the word was out. Young, strong willed, intelligent and loud mouth (in a good way) Aimee, has decided to jump on the wagon of fate to the beautiful city of Singapore.

Say goodbye to Aimee as she gracefully takes a bow from her last performance as a C&C Assistant. Adieu!

**** To Vasq

The Journey: MEY says goodbye

2007-01-13T22:31:00.000-08:00

“No goodbyes just see you later.” This is what Mahal wrote in her Skype shout out. Only a few knew but it’s actually her way of saying, “I resigned.” Mahal is one of the first Customer Service Representatives in our company. Always at the top list for the number of emails answered. The petite young lady in Customer Service Department, who’s always been a bit shy, is now ready to spread her wings and widen her horizon. Hopeful and unafraid, Mahal is determined to see what lies ahead for her beyond the boundaries of the Philippines, into the jungles of the Lion City, Singapore.

Say farewell to the shy Megan and to the upfront Heather; a proof that some goodbyes are really forever.

More to come…

**** To Megan and Heather

THE JOURNEY: 795

2007-01-13T22:28:00.000-08:00

It was with priority number 795 when their plans all started to be realized. Yes, it was with that single paper and numbers that their dreams started to unfold. After months of planning and research, four friends are now ready to embark on a journey of their lives - a journey full of dreams and hopes; and a journey that will soon change their lives forever. This is an adventure of four friends whose journey will take you to the beautiful country of Singapore, the Lion City. Four different lives, different characters and unique individuals, but with one goal…

Soon…

**** To the Independent

For the New Year: 2007

2007-01-03T05:44:00.000-08:00

Live in the way of truth with God, with others and with yourself. Make the best of what you can do... Make the best of what you have...Cheers!

**** Happy New Year!

Misa de Gallo

2006-12-18T17:13:00.000-08:00

They say that if you are able to complete the nine morning masses (Misa de Gallo), whatever you wish for will come true. Too bad I missed one day. I wasn’t able to go to church yesterday; not because I forgot to, but because the alarm clock didn’t go off. Yes, blame it on the alarm clock. I’m really determined to complete the nine mornings, that I even adjusted my schedule at work. I even went home early from our Christmas Party, so that I can wake up early for the mass. When I got home, I set the alarm clock on at 2:30 am so that I would have ample time to prepare. But the stupid alarm clock had a mind of its own, that it preferred to be silent. Or did it go off and I just didn’t hear it because I was sleeping like rock? I must admit I was really tired and lacked sleep that day. Plus, I drank two bottles of beer during our Christmas Party. Maybe… Hmmm… I’d prefer the alarm-clock theory.

Okay, so I wasn’t able to attend the second Misa de Gallo last Sunday. I was disappointed; nevertheless, I was able to go to Pitalo that day. When I woke up, I was surprised to read Keith’s text message saying he wanted to go to Pitalo Church with me. And without any hesitation I said yes. It’s a well known church in San Fernando for its miraculous San Vicente Ferrer. They say that when you get there, you should light some candles, pray and say your wish three times for it to come true. Keith also said that people, who lost their love ones like due to tragedy or something, usually go there; pray and wish that they’d be found.

After passing three provinces and 30 minutes travel later, we finally arrived. I was expecting a big church, more like Sto. Niño and Sto. Rosaryo church, instead it was a humble one knowing what it was known for. Not really that big but once you get inside you’ll be amazed. From the ceiling to the wall, you’ll find paintings of divine images. For me, it’s kinda like the Sistine Chapel but the smaller and Pinoy version of it. We lighted some candles, prayed, and made our wish. I’m glad Keith brought me there. It was a wonderful experience, to think it was an impromptu.

Today is the third Misa de Gallo. My mom and I woke up late, so we decided to hear mass at Pardo Church, which is near our place. I don’t know why for some reason I choose to park at Holy Cross School’s basketball court, when there was a parking space right in front of the Blessed Virgin Mary’s grotto. Unmindful of anything bad that would happen; we got out of the car and went to hear mass. After the mass ended, we got back to the car and were surprised to see papers scattered inside. I instantly realized that it was ransacked. The robbers took my bag with my mp4 in it. On the other hand, the car’s stereo, the 1 GB flash disks and the automatic tire inflator were still there. Good thing nothing really important or precious was inside my bag. I was shaken by what happen. I didn’t expect that of all places it would happen within the church vicinity or inside a school’s basketball court.

So will I still continue the remaining six early morning masses? Yes, my conviction to attend the Misa de Gallo is still there. Even if I had a traumatic experience and wouldn’t be able to complete the nine mornings to make a wish, the important thing is I tried. Besides, it’s more of the preparation you make for the coming Christmas day that matters. Who knows, what I long for is just what He might have planned for me. Then I may not even need to wish for it anymore.

***** Amen!

A time to share

2006-12-15T22:29:00.000-08:00

It’s the time of year once again when we get to play Santa with our less fortunate brothers and sisters. With Bigfoot as a sponsor, we’ve touched lives and brought smiles to the orphans of David Livingstone Foundation, Ubay Liloan yesterday. We gave out a lot of gifts and in return they sang songs (a production number) and prayed for us. At some point in their presentation while I was recording it, some of them cried, then suddenly I felt tears fell from my eyes. I was touched. It was either the song or the way the children sang it. A “thank you” song, which I felt they sang from their hearts.

Three weeks of preparation was all worth it. It was really such a wonderful and enlightening experienced. It made me realized that even if I don’t have that much, even if I don’t usually get what I want, I am already blessed with a family and friends, and for that I have a lot to be thankful for.

***** Share your blessings this Christmas

THE GREATEST ADVICE - Practical thoughts on a Purpose-driven life

2006-11-15T06:23:00.000-08:00

THE GREATEST ADVICE
Rick Warren, the Purpose Driven Life

Don't date because you are desperate.
Don't marry because you are miserable.
Don't have kids because you think your genes are superior.
Don't philander because you think you are irresistible.

Don't associate with people you can't trust.
Don't cheat. Don't lie. Don't pretend.
Don't dictate because you are smarter.
Don't demand because you are stronger.

Don't sleep around because you think you are old enough & know better.
Don't hurt your kids because loving them is harder.
Don't sell yourself, your family, or your ideals.
Don't stagnate!

Don't regress.
Don't live in the past. Time can't bring anything or anyone back.
Don't put your life on hold for possibly Mr. Right.
Don't throw your life away on absolutely Mr. Wrong because your
biological clock is ticking.

Learn a new skill.
Find a new friend.
Start a new career.
Sometimes, there is no race to be won, only a price to be paid for some of life's more hasty decisions.

To terminate your loneliness, reach out to the homeless.
To feed your nurturing instincts, care for the needy.
To fulfill your parenting fantasies, get a puppy.
Don't bring another life into this world for all the wrong reasons.

To make yourself happy, pursue your passions & be the best of what you can be.
Simplify your life. Take away the clutter.
Get rid of destructive elements: abusive friends, nasty habits, and
dangerous liaisons.
Don't abandon your responsibilities but don't overdose on duty.

Don't live life recklessly without thought and feeling for your family.
Be true to yourself.
Don't commit when you are not ready.
Don't keep others waiting needlessly.

Go on that trip. Don't postpone it.
Say those words. Don't let the moment pass.
Do what you have to, even at society's scorn.

Write poetry.
Love Deeply.
Walk barefoot.
Dance with wild abandon.
Cry at the movies.

Take care of yourself. Don't wait for someone to take care of you.
You light up your life.
You drive yourself to your destination.
No one completes you - except YOU.

It isn't true that life does not get easier with age.
It only gets more challenging.
Don't be afraid. Don't lose your capacity to love.
Pursue your passions.

Live your dreams.
Don't lose faith in God.
Don't grow old. Just grow YOU!

When you give someone your time, you are giving them a portion of your life that you'll never get back.
Your time is your life. That is why the greatest gift you can give to
someone is your time.
Relationships take time and effort, and the best way to spell love is
T-I-M-E because the essence of love is not what we think or do or provide for others, but how much we give of ourselves

God is good all the time!

That Long Distance Relationship Thing

2006-09-11T10:22:00.000-07:00

“It won’t work!” That has always been my stand every time someone brings up the topic about long distance relationship and asks my opinion. Talks of romantic moments but without physical interaction; no hugging, no kissing, no holding hands, and no sex, is a total bs. Who in their right sense of mind can stand such an arrangement? I mean, I could get sick of loneliness if I can’t even take a glimpse of my special someone in a week. How much more if that would happen in a month or in years? I could be dead by then! All right, I exaggerated a little. I know we already have webcams, mms and 3G technologies to see someone from far away. Still, I just don’t believe that such a romantic relationship can survive. The saying, “absence makes the heart grow fonder” is such a big cliché. An overused phrase that everyone likes to use to cover up their dying relationship and their overflowing longing to be their partners. Duh! I think it’s more likely “absence makes the heart forget” or “out of sight, out of mind.”

Take for example my college friend, Andrea (not her real name). She is sexy, beautiful, and a successful Computer Engineer; however, her love life may not speak the same. Andrea had a college boyfriend and they have been together for along time. A few months after graduation, Andrea had to go to another country for work, leaving her boyfriend behind with hopes that she’d return after 2 years. Yes, they’ve decided to join the few others in the implausible world of long distance relationships. Everything went well at first. But I guess it’s really man’s nature to be physically stimulated. After a few months of exchanging “I love yous” through emails and calls, Andrea found out that her boyfriend was seeing another girl. To make the long story short, they broke-up. Andrea was a little devastated, but take note of the word “a little” because just a month after the break-up she found James. Andrea and James went back to the Philippines; they got married and Andrea got pregnant. James had to go out of the country again to continue his contract in the company where he works. Like a déjà vu and without any choice, Andrea found herself in another long distance relationship. Nine months later Andrea gave birth to a bouncing baby boy, whom of course became one of my good-looking godchildren. Years and months have passed and somehow things were going smoothly between the two. Until just recently, I received a text message from Andrea with the following words; “Nit, I’m sad… I found out that James had a girlfriend there and the girl had the nerve to even call me…” I told her to fight for her rights and her love for James, which of course she did and gave James another chance. But that’s another story to tell.

I think that is proof enough that long distance relationships don’t work. Ok, you may say that it is an isolated case. So I did a little survey and I tried asking about 20 people for their opinion on the matter. However, only 7 replied with their best opinion and the rest, either they don’t care or they have a boring lovelife. Surprisingly, out of the 7 only 3 people share the same opinion as I have. According to my oozingly sexy friend Eloise, it won’t work. She pointed out that, the most common reason you hear from the brokenhearted or the heartbreaker why the relationship didn’t work is that they grew apart (and they are just a mere 2 miles or less away). How much more if you put the geographical quotient in the picture, it would be such a disaster. On the other hand, the versatile Bhobby said that, it may indeed be very difficult but when two people are mature enough, then it can work. But Yo, a promiscuous friend of mine, was very firm in saying it won’t work. He said that, if your partner is far away from you, there are tendencies that he/she might be tempted. It is a big world out and it is inevitable that someone almost the same or much more might come along, he added. Jokingly he said, how about if your partner will be assigned in Lebanon, would you be happy with your long distance relationship knowing there’s a raging war going on there? I just laughed. “Some kinda tough ha, “ was Jerwin’s first reaction. Jerwin said that, he still believes that it can work, even if it didn't work out for him. Yes, he finds it ironic, but it may be so because he confesses to still feel that his one of those bunch of "hopeless delusionals" who believe that love...true and genuine love, in its all-encompassing power, does not know any boundaries, geographic or otherwise. Pretty mom Noreen and voluptuous Lyn both shared that, it depends on the couple involved. If they both want it to work out there are always ways to keep it alive. Anything will work if both want it to, she concluded. Although Lyn said it could be very tiring, based on her on going experience.

Hmmm…I’m almost convinced it will work. Wait a minute. If I take into consideration my dad working for 5 years already in Saudi, and knowing that my mom and dad are still happily in love with each other, I think it can work. There may still be hope for those lovers in such relationship. But how to pull it off and what the true factors or key elements to a successful long distance relationship? That I don’t know for sure. I guess it would be safe to say that with a little fate, love and trust, it can work out.

*****To the hopeless romantic

Live, Laugh and Love

2006-09-11T10:19:00.000-07:00

Live, Laugh and Love…Live your life to fullest; life is too short. Treasure each day you get to share with your family and friends. Do not let a day pass without saying “I love you,” “Thank you,” or “take care” to the ones you love. No matter how simple it is, know that it means so much to them. Be happy. Do not let a day pass without having to laugh. Read a joke, watch “Will and Grace” or go to a comedy bar. Go with the flow but be wise. Do not waste your time thinking about all your problems that you know you can’t solve in a day. Go out and enjoy what you have, but do not forget to share what you can with others. Love like you’ve never loved before; even if it’s already your nth time to be with someone. Life is too short…

*** To Callai, we will pray for you.

That Rain Thing

2006-08-06T14:31:00.001-07:00

Totot – totoot – totooot… The alarm goes off and I found myself waking up on a dark and rainy morning. The rain was pouring and the weather was cold. Everyone in the house was still sound asleep, even the dogs. But despite my being a sucker for a cool weather, I was excited to get out of bed and start my day. I love the rainy days. I’m not sure what it is, but somehow it gives me a comforting feeling. Yes, I know and I feel it sometimes. Something in the rain also brings a gloomy feeling; a cheerless and a dispiriting atmosphere. Most, if not all, gets emotional during this kind of weather.

I was driving on my way to the office and I turned the radio on. After almost 30 minutes trip, it was then I realized that I have already listened to three straight sad songs – Break it to me gently, Cool with you and Tonight I want cry. I arrived in the office 5 minutes ahead of time; parked my car and by the last note of the song, “Tonight I want cry,” I turned the engine off. For a few minutes there I was dumbfounded. Suddenly, memories of heartaches went flashing through my mind. Not only of my own, but also of friends whom had their share of painful experiences too.

I remember the time my ex broke up with me over the phone. The words “I fell out of love” echoed in my ears like a church bell. I was in bed when I got the call and I cried a river that time. It was a murky day. The time Megan was crying in the office early morning. She already had puffy eyes when she told me, “I don’t know what to do anymore,” then tears continuously flowed down from her eyes. It was heartbreaking. I remember Jayson’s shaky voice over the phone when he said, “I love him but I’m tired… I’m breaking up with him.” It was emotional. That dawn, when Mild opened up to me and told me how partly unhappy she is with her life. How she longs to have someone to inspire her and share her life with apart from her family. It was heartrending. I remember when my sister secretly told me that, she and her boyfriend had already broke-up due to a third-party. She attempted to be courageous and put on a smile, but her tears betrayed her. It was nostalgic. There was also that time when my mom got a long-distance call from my aunt, informing her of my grandmother’s death. Tears fell from her eyes as she woefully puts down the phone. Her hands were shaking as I held it; then she embraced me and told me what happened. It was a mournful day.

It made me feel a little depressed, but I had to overcome it. I was not planning of getting emotional, while face with loads of work in the office. After a tiring day, I went home and went straight to bed. I was so sleepy that I didn’t even bother to eat dinner at all. The rain continued to pour until the following day. I watched as it fell from the shadowy sky, accompanied by a cool breeze that swooped in my room. I thought the rain was calling me, so I took off my shirt and went outside. It has been a long time, as far as I can remember, since I freely bathed under the pouring rain. I felt the raindrops on my face and all over my body. I was enjoying myself. For a while, the rain poured hard and I thought it dropped so hard that it stings a bit. It was cold, yet it felt so refreshing and uplifting. Then the rain stopped and there was a short silence. Suddenly, streaks of sunlight appeared in the open air. Frogs started to croak, as if a wonderful song is being made. I looked around me and the place was so invigorating. The plants looked so green and the place was glowing. Everything seemed so alive and new.

I continued to watch my surroundings, as I wiped my body with the towel that was hanging outside the terrace. Then it came to me; I guess this is the reason why I feel something in the rain is comforting. It is natures’ way of cleansing the earth and bringing out the best in everything. Just like the problems we have in our life, it polishes us to become a better person. It would be boring if life were all sunny and funny. I think we need the rain like we need to endure hardships in life. It is the only way for us to be able to grasp happiness and the true meaning of life. Although, sometimes the rain can pour longer than we expect it or even become a storm, but we just need to hold on and keep our faith. The sun will always shine after every rain. Remember that everything happens for a reason, and it is for that reason that we continue to live and endure pain.

*** To all the people in pain

That Sex Thing

2006-07-12T20:33:00.001-07:00

It was 11pm and I just got home from a date when the phone rang. Marlon was on the line. He mentioned something about Kim and sounded a bit pissed off. Marlon and Kim (not their real names) are one of those PLU couples that I admire. He asked me if we could talk for a while. Something in his voice tells me that it will be a long talk, but what the heck, I wasn’t sleepy yet. Marlon is a good friend of mine; moreno, a gym buff and a smart guy. He met Kim at work on their lunchtime and they started going out. From then on, they have been going steady for almost a year now. Like any other relationships, they’ve been through rough roads; constant quarrels, jealousy, and misunderstandings almost leading to their break-up. But they’ve somehow managed to make it through all those.

I sat down on the couch and Marlon said, “What a really frustrating day.” That was his first sentence. “I just want to talk to someone or I’m going mad.” I asked what happened and he started talking. “Today, I called Kim and invited him for a dinner date and a movie. We’ve talked for over an hour on the phone and we’ve both decided to check-in a motel and make love after watching a movie. Funny because I had to practically beg for it, but take note, I didn’t force him to. It has just been awhile since we’ve done it, and I miss him so much. I think he also sounded excited about our plan and was even teasing me how he’s already horny.” I continued to attentively listen to Marlon’s story for almost 30 minutes. Once in a while I give a confirmative tone to let him know that I was still there. Then the climax…

“After we’ve bought all the paraphernalia needed (condoms and lubricant) and after watching a really horrifying film, I found myself seating next to a sleepy Kim inside my car. I couldn’t believe my eyes and I didn’t know what to exactly feel. He lied down and said that, he was tired and sleepy. How can he be tired and sleepy after having slept almost the whole day and after watching “See no Evil,” a suspense/ horror film? Tell me Mon. My god! To think I was so excited to kiss him and much more feel his body. But after a few minutes, I didn’t see that coming to a realization anymore. I was upset and insulted, maybe because I was so emotionally and physically prepared. I mean if he didn’t want to do it, why not just say so. Rather than get me going and lead me to believe something’s going to happen but in the end nothing at all. You know what? He has done it so many times. He has this unique way of indirectly turning down my request or any plans we make, to the last minute. Right then and there, I decided we’d go home. I mean it’s just the right thing to do, right? I can be more understanding Mon, but this time I just don’t get it. He added that he just needed a 10 minutes nap, then we can make love. He said that it’s like work he needed a break. A break from what? What the hell was he talking about? Besides, who in his right mind after seeing his partner acting sleepy and tired, would still want to have sex? Good thing I didn’t buy the tube lubricant or it would’ve caused me more than 200 pesos for nothing.”

It came to me that Marlon was already finished with his story. He asked what I thought about it, but I was speechless for a few moments. I didn't know what to say because I had the same experience before. It was as if I was listening to myself complaining. Then I finally said that I agree with him. I told him that he should tell Kim how he felt about what happened and talk about it. We ended our conversation with him saying. “Oh well! Maybe I’ll just jack-off with this lubricant we bought. Sayang nman.” We both laugh and said our good nights. I went to bed still wondering about something. What Marlon said caught my attention; when he said that he practically beg for them to make love. How important is sex in a romantic relationship?

I’m talking about Sex, not as a gender, but as an activity associated with sexual intercourse. It is that thing that involves vaginal, anal, or oral penetration. It is an act, for sexual procreation and also for sexual enjoyment, done during which the erect penis is inserted into the vagina, anus or mouth, where orgasm and ejaculation occur. Some would actually prefer using the phrase “make love.” This is the term that most couples use to differentiate plain sex and the sex done in a relationship. Don’t be confused. It is still sex but with added complications. The term coitus may also be used synonymously.

I woke up the next day but I still can’t forget about the things I’ve heard last night. I went to Ayala and had my weekly facial care; I went shopping and I went to the gym, but I still can’t get the question off my mind. I realize I needed to confide with my friends for some answers. It was then when Rainne and Megan, both good friends of mine, invited me for a lunch-out. Rainne is the glamorous Quality Assurance Engineer, who has been going steady with his boyfriend for 5 years now. Megan is the sexy and intelligent Customer Service Representative, who is currently in a long-distance relationship for 2 months. We hopped in my car and decided to eat at Jollibee. I was driving when I told them about Marlon’s experience and asked them; is sex important in a romantic relationship? How important is it?

After hearing the story, they both laughed at it. Megan’s first reaction was somewhat strong, as she can also relate about it in a different way. It has something to do with falsely leading on someone to believe something, which is entirely not true. I believe that it wasn’t also right for Kim to lead Marlon to believing that he was excited to make love to him that night and in the end turned him down. Megan said that it was really frustrating. She added that, sex is really part of any romantic relationship. She calls it part of being intimate with each other. However, she claims that if the person is firm when it comes to his values, say waiting for marriage before doing it, then we should respect the person’s decision and values. Rainne nodded to show affirmation to what Megan said. She said that, it is that special thing you do in a romantic relationship, a thin line that separates lovers from being just friends. Your partner shouldn’t beg for it, but it should be willingly given in a joint decision, she further said. Lastly, I personally think that it jazzes up a relationship.

I hurriedly parked my car because we were already hungry. Before we got out of the car, we’ve already arrived to the conclusion that sex, “making love,” “cuddling” or whatever you call it, is really an essential component in every romantic relationship. Instead of eating in Jollibee, we ended up eating in Mc Donalds, coz after all, my car was parked in their parking area. =)

***** To a happier relationship and a wonderful sex life.

A Tribute to SUPERMAN

2006-07-06T15:39:00.000-07:00

* CAN YOU READ MY MIND *

Can you read my mind?
Do you know what it is you do to me?
Don't know who you are
Just a friend from another star

Here I am, like a kid at the school
Holding hands with a god or a fool
Will you look at me, quivering,
Like a little girl, shivering,
You can see right through me.

Can you read my mind?
Can you picture the things I'm thinking of?
Wondering why you are
All the wonderful things you are.

You can fly - You belong to the sky
You and I we belong to each other.

If you need a friend,
I'm the one to fly too
If you need - to be loved -
Here I am, Read my mind!

***** To Christopher Reeve and Brandon Routh

Rainy Days

2006-06-28T09:06:00.000-07:00

I like the weather today; the shower of rain and the cool breeze. Days like these make most people romanticize. Makes you want to be with your bf or gf alone; hugging each other on the couch or on your bed while watching a very romantic movie, or listening to some sweet love songs while talking about just anything. Cinematic? Oh yes, but true.

However, some people just want to be alone in days like these, like me. Not that I’m loner or unromantic, but there’s something about the rain that makes me want to be by myself. I just want to be alone in bed, listening to the lullaby of the falling rain. Or watch any movie in the living room alone and feed myself with lots of chips. Then listen to my collection of some oldies-but-goodies love songs. Most of all, I love it after it rains. Everything seems so serene, fresh and peaceful. The sound of crickets is just music to my ears. The unruffled and cold breeze just doesn’t fail to make me smile. The earth is cleansed once again.

**** To Gaya, Mother of the Earth

ST. CROMNZ PDF

2006-06-22T07:02:00.000-07:00

Just recently, my cell phone got corrupted and I lost all my contacts. I could very well remember it happened the dawn of Wednesday. I was installing a game on my cell phone, when suddenly it popped up; “File Corrupted. Some entries lost.” I got tensed and agitated. I was worried I lost some of my contact numbers. I opened my phonebook and to my surprise, it was completely blank.

That day, I started emailing my friends asking for their contact numbers. I even announced it in Friendster to keep everyone posted of what happened. A few of them texted me with their names on it, while others emailed their contact numbers. By Sunday, I thought I had most of the numbers that got lost. However, I was still receiving some text messages from “unknown” numbers. Thanks to Globe Unlimited, it made it cheaper and easier for me to send blast text messages to everyone and asked them who they were. One of those “unknown” numbers was Ivan’s.

Ivan was a high school batchmate and a friend of mine. He is a BS HRM graduate and now teaching English as a second language to Koreans. I already have his number before, but we rarely text nor call each other. I was not even sure if he had the same number after all this time or if he has my number at all. When the thing about my cell phone happened, he texted this, “Naa nko uyab…” The number was unregistered and I didn’t have any clue from who it was. I was puzzled. I thought it was from my ex. I would have surely replied, “It’s about time…” But I had to make sure first. I texted and asked who it was, then I receive a text back and it reads, “Ivan. (smiley face).” He called me later in the evening and we got to talk over the phone.

We talked for over an hour, reminiscing our High School days and what have become of us after school. So many things have happened back then and I could still vividly remember everything; the jokes we’ve shared, the disappointments felt towards a low grade, the connivances every after school, the teachers who made us felt special and really involved, and the fights that usually lasted for just a day or hours even. Ivan mentioned that we would soon be having our High School Reunion next year. I can’t believe that it has been almost 10 years since High School. I told him I’m looking forward to it. Ivan on the other hand isn’t. He said that he is not yet successful enough to face everyone. I told him that it doesn’t really matter. Well, okay it does, but not much. For me, I’m just excited to see friends from way back. Besides, he is successful already. Having graduated college, single and earning as much as 15,000 – 20,000 a month, is in fact something to be proud of. I wasn’t sure if he was convinced.

We shifted our discussion to our circle of friends. I asked if he is still in contact with Damier, Jayson, Julius, Ray and etc. Like me, they just keep in touch through text or call, but never got a chance to go out anymore. While Ivan was saying something, I began to remember how it was before and how we used to call our group. It was a very smart effort of the whole group, particularly Misty (who used to be known as Brian), Celine (who we used to call Roland) and Damier. They got all the first letters in our family name and formed an acronym out of it – ST. CROMNZ PDF. Yes, it is unique. Back to the phone with Ivan, it was already 7:30pm. I was about to tell him that I had to go and prepare for work, when he invited me for a night out on Friday. Since Friday was my day-off, I immediately said yes. Then I suggested why not make it a reunion with the ST CROMNZ PDF. Ivan agreed with excitement. He then started to contact the others and got a favorable response. By the next day, it was already official – June 16, 2006, 8pm Friday at Mango Square.

As usual, I was the first one to arrived. Jayson, who was very masculine in black shirt, met up with me in Jollibee. Ivan, who looked very sophisticated in folded and hung polo, was already on the table with Chris, who is now, in a certain angle Eric Santos look-a-like. Ray, who looked so healthy with silver jewelries, came alone. Cerwin, who’s now bald was wearing a white sando and maong short, came with the sexy and gorgeous Celine, who was wearing a really micro-mini skirt. While Fresh looking and beautiful with curly-tip long hair Misty, came in late. We were almost complete, except for Ryan, Damier and Julius, who have their own valid reasons for not coming. For the first time, after almost 10 years, we were all gathered like one big happy family in the heart of Mango Square. The first few hours were spent in chatting; sharing experiences, asking of common friends, asking how’s who and where’s who now, and a lot more. Then we started drinking beer, dancing, singing, and boys watching. We even saw some high school classmates who were also doing there usual night out. We partied the whole night until 4am the next day. It was my first time there in Mango Square and I had so much fun, we all did. We almost forgot that Misty still had to go to work; Chris had a slight fever, even if he was feeling a little numb because of the beer; and I had to take my sister to a seminar as early as 6am.

I drove my way home with a light feeling and a bit tipsy. I got to bed and decided to take a short nap, but I couldn’t. I was still feeling high. I caught myself staring at the ceiling, thinking how nice it is to know that even if I don’t get to see them, I know that we are still good friends. I know that I can still count on them. It’s just like this text message that I received from a friend in Chicago, and I quote,

“ Good friends are like stars. You don't always see them, but you know they are always there.“

****To Good Fiends and Good Time.

That Gay Thing

2006-06-13T10:41:00.000-07:00

Independence day!

I went to Ayala the other day hoping to meet Keith for a lunch date; however, after almost an hour of waiting, he didn’t show up. So I decided to go to Tacos and ordered one whole quesadillas. I was a bit hungry and this is where we usually eat if were kinda short in cash. I was that time.

I was enjoying my slices of hot, spicy, and cheesy quesadillas while checking on the people around. I saw Angge, a friend of a friend of mine who has 6th sense; my cousin who was in rush to buy blank CDs; and some children playing with their plastic swords. As I was about to eat my fourth slice, there he was: straight looking, neat, tall, in a yellow Lacoste polo shirt, Dickies jeans and with a girl. The latter was surprising. Mind you, I was not surprised to see that the girl was not so good-looking, but I was more surprised to see that he was locked-arms with the girl. The girl’s arms were wrapped around his left arm, like a python tightly gripping on its prey. They looked so sweet to each other and I couldn’t help but wonder. Was she her girlfriend? Then suddenly, like a movie, I had a flash back.

John, not really the guy’s real name, was a schoolmate way back in high school. He was an intelligent student, good-looking, flamboyant, and effeminate. Yes, he is gay. He wore short shorts in PE class, always liked to be in a female character in every short plays held either in the class room or gym, brings a foldable glittering fan during flag ceremony, and likes smooching around with guys. There was even one time when he was wearing green contact lenses, but he had to leave it at home the next day, because the teacher called his attention for doing so. It was a boys’ school.

Back to reality, I was caught up staring at them as they passed by. I took a small bite on my fourth slice of quesadillas and started asking myself: is it possible for someone as gay as John to change into a straight guy? I thought I needed my friends help. So I emailed some of my open-minded friends right away and was able to get different views.

Mild’s answer was, “YES, if he joins the oasis of love”. I thought it was kinda funny, so I emailed back and asked if she was serious. You see, Mild is the sexy, religious and joker type. You just can’t be sure if she is joking or not. True enough, she’s heard some testimonies about it from some people in the “congregation.” Eloise, my out going and sophisticated friend, knew of someone who was gay in high school but who’s now happily married, with a beautiful daughter. Maricar, a very good friend of mine who wants some of my sperms when we turn 40, just don’t think it’s possible. She added that, at a moment he may look and live like a straight guy but the desires and the feelings of a gay person will still haunt him. Philmore was positively sure it could happen, as soon as the person discovers that cherries are tastier than bananas. A friend of mine from a call center and proud to be gay, Jerwin, related this to a bi-sexual preference, but somehow he just couldn’t understand why there is such a thing as a bi-sexual person. He said that, you may like two things but there’s always this tendency to like the other one more. So he concluded that there’s really no such thing as a bi-sexual and an image of a really gay individual turning into a straight guy, is rather a little hard to believe. Professor Richard, and sexy Mahal both shared that it is a matter of choice. If the person is determined to change, then he can be whatever he wants. Today, I asked Keith the same question and he said, “Being gay is an absolute entity.” Half of your body just couldn’t be gay while the other half is straight. If you are gay, then you are gay, he concluded.

As I drive my way back to the office, I keep getting the picture in my mind of John smiling and laughing with a girl. I somehow realize that he was actually happy, as his face obviously suggests. And it came to me; I think that’s the most important thing. After all, happiness is what we all seek in life and we are all entitled to it. So if John was either reborn into a straight guy or was just acting like one, as long as he is happy, that’s what matters. I started working with a smile, knowing how happy and loved I am in just being me.

*** To those people who are trying to be true.

Gemini - May 26, 1980

2006-06-05T17:58:00.000-07:00

Freyr and Freyja as the Twins

Freya is considered to be the goddess of Love and Beauty, but is also a warrior goddess and one of great wisdom and magick. She and her twin brother Freyr are of a different "race" of gods known as the Vanir. Many of the tribes venerated her higher than the Aesir, calling her "the Frowe" or "The Lady." She is known as Queen of the Valkyries, choosers of those slain in battle to bear them to Valhalla (the Norse heaven). She, therefore, is a psychopomp like Odhinn and it is said that she gets the "first pick" of the battle slain. She wears the sacred necklace Brisingamen, which she paid for by spending the night with the dwarves who wrought it from the bowels of the earth. The cat is her sacred symbol. There seems to be some confusion between herself and Fricka, Odin's wife, as they share similar functions; but Fricka seems to be strictly of the Aesir, while Freya is of the Vanic race. The day Friday (Frejyasdaeg) was named for her (some claim it was for Fricka).

Freyr (Fro Ingwe) is Freya's twin brother. He is the horned God of fertility, and has some similarities to the Celtic Cernunnos or Herne, although he is NOT the same being. He is known as King of the Alfs (elves). Both the Swedish and the English are said to be descendents of his. The Boar is his sacred symbol, which is both associated with war and with fertility. His golden boar, "Gullenbursti", is supposed to represent the daybreak. He is also considered to be the God of Success, and is wedded to Gerda, the Jotun, for whom he had to yield up his mighty sword. At Ragnarok, he is said to fight with the horn of an elk (much more suited to his nature rather than a sword.)

Chatty Gemini is my star sign, which tells us that the Sun awakened the dual sign of the Twins in the Zodiac on my birthday. The Sun in astrology stands for our inner nature. The third sign of the zodiac, Gemini, a masculine sign, is ruled by the quick and lively planet Mercury, the messenger of the gods. A mutable (fluid and changeable) sign, Gemini governs communications, intellectual matters, and gossip! It is an air sign, which means Gemini people are ingenious, quick-witted communicators, although you are often restless, easily bored and can become frustrated by things moving too slowly.

The Sun, ruler of our inner nature, is bright in Gemini. It favours writing, other forms of communication, and travel (although beware of running around in circles just for the sake of it, or because others have imposed on your good nature). Geminians are great talkers and are usually very much in demand socially, because you are so entertaining. You'd make a great talk-show host. Gemini is the life of the party.

A Dual Sign

Being a dual sign has (of course) both an up and a down-side. You are vitally interested in what's new and fashionable, though you have a healthy skepticism which allows you to see both sides of the image. You are a party animal, but like to sit back and analyse, or send up the whole procedure.

You multiply the effects of other people's energy, but can become deflated if you are out of the limelight for any length of time. Your sharp wit and excellent powers of observation make you a good raconteur, although you have a tendency to exaggerate which can cause trouble with your relationships.

Ironic Wit

You really have little faith in yourself, which you mask with ironic wit or sarcasm, but in truth you can use your flexible mind to better yourself in a surprising number of ways. You spend more time talking than eating, so you are able to stay fairly slim. Your flexible bod enjoys agile sports: gymnastics, bicycling, swimming, and so on. Favorites are tennis, racquetball and similar games involving a partner. Gemini talents include design, interior decoration, arts and crafts, magic and illusion, and music.

As the day-throne of Mercury, your strengths are in communication, both the spoken and the written word, media, gossip and trivia of every conceivable variety. A mutable (changeable) sign, you are chameleon-like in your ability to blend in with your environment, yet you stand out like a beacon when you become the life of the party, with your witty remarks and seemingly limitless knowledge about all and sundry.

Multi-faceted Personality

You love zooming around, running right left and centre. As a source of information you are unparalleled and you love to keep in touch with your friends, neighbours and indeed anyone who is on your wavelength. The mobile phone, if not invented by a Gemini, was definitely invented for you – and is certainly your most treasured accessory!

Gemini rules the hands and arms, lungs, thymus gland and upper ribs; people with Gemini active in their charts are subject to injury or infection in these areas and should resist the temptation to smoke. Geminians are also subject to mental distraction and hovering between alternatives, or attempting to pursue mutually conflicting goals.

Gemini colours are yellow and light blue, and mixed colours. Your birthstone is the agate, attractively streaked with colours like the multi-faceted Geminian personality. Gemini flowers include the lilac, azalea, and lily-of-the-valley.

The Element associated with Gemini is Air. Air Signs are the thinking person's Signs, and the Twins don't disappoint. Those born under this Sign prize intellect and consider it the key to all things. At work, they are the clearest of thinkers, looking at a project from all (well, at least two) sides and putting forth some logical and well-thought-out ideas. This quality makes Geminis an asset to any team, and while these folks are not inclined to take the lead, they are a most valuable component. It's also the Gemini's literary bent which allows them to offer a useful perspective on most any situation. The Twins also enjoy bringing their objective reasoning and big-picture ability into their personal relationships. While some may perceive all this logical thought as cold and unemotional, it's simply how these folks tick. They want to connect, they just do it their own way. Luckily for Geminis (and their pals), their lightness of spirit and youthful exuberance help them to appear forever young. In keeping with that skip in their step, Geminis enjoy short road trips -- and their agile minds and nimble hands ensure that they could change a tire (if needed) in no time flat. Is all of this Twin-energy more than any one person can handle? Ah, maybe that's why they are two.